Is love all we need? Is it truly enough?
Let’s together break down some myths that might be messing with our ideas about love and what we can do to not fall in the trap of a toxic love.
Sure, love makes our hearts flutter, but it doesn't guarantee compatibility. Falling for someone doesn't mean they're your perfect match. Love is emotional; compatibility, a logical puzzle.
When dating and looking for a partner, you must use not only your heart, but your mind. Yes, you want to find someone who makes your heart flutter and your farts smell like cherry popsicles. But you also need to evaluate a person’s values, how they treat themselves, how they treat those close to them, their ambitions, and their worldviews in general.
Remember your first love? The whirlwind of emotions felt like conquering problems, right? Love may make you feel better about issues, but it won't magically solve them.
This is how a toxic relationship works. The roller coaster of emotions is intoxicating, each high feeling even more important and more valid than the one before, but unless there’s a stable and practical foundation beneath your feet, that rising tide of emotion will eventually come and wash it all away.
After all, love conquers all, right? (well, not really)
Loving someone means caring for their needs, but what are you sacrificing, and is it worth it? Healthy relationships involve occasional sacrifices, but sacrificing self-respect, dignity, or life purpose is a red flag.
If we find ourselves in situations where we’re tolerating disrespectful or abusive behavior, then that’s essentially what we’re doing: we’re allowing our love to consume us and negate us, and if we’re not careful, it will leave us a shell of the person we once were.
Love should enhance your identity, not replace it.
Some things aren't worth sacrificing for, and that includes losing yourself in the process.
So what can we do instead? To improve our love life?
Here’s one takeaways that we hope you would love:
One of the oldest relationship tips is that you and your partner should be best friends. Most people take it positively, like spending time together, talking openly, and having fun, just like with your best friend.
But let us offer you another way of seeing it; would you put up with your partner's bad behavior if they were your best friend ?
Surprisingly, in many unhealthy relationships, the answer is a big “no.”
Imagine your best friend moving in, trashing your place, not taking responsibility, demanding you cook, and throwing a fit when you complain. You'd distance yourself from that friendship faster than Taylor Swift changing her squad. (for real for real)
Here's the real talk:
To really enjoy love, put something else above it in your life. Love comes in all shapes and sizes—good, bad, young, old. But what's rare? Your self-respect, dignity, and trust. Lose those, and it's tough to get them back.
Love is fantastic, but it can be good or bad. It shouldn't take over who we are; it should fit with our identity and life goals. Sacrificing who we are for love means losing not just love but ourselves.
Because life needs more than love.
Love is awesome, needed, and beautiful. But love alone isn't enough.
p/s: curious about how Wetopia can guide you towards becoming a healthier and happier individual?
